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How Do I Know I Found My Prostate?

We must be all aware of the debate over whether the G-spot exists or not, probably at this point. Want to hear something shockingly surprising?  Many men tend to have a special spot of their own. Yes, it is the P-spot aka the prostate gland. Hey, guys don’t shy away.

Talking about your prostate can be a little bit uncomfortable for most and we know that. Simply because you may not know what it is or where it is. Or you might have only heard about from others. You know those commercials. The older men having difficulty peeing. The doctors are trying to check by putting finger ‘you know where’.

How do I know I found my prostate- you may ask? In this article, we added all the details about your prostate gland. We will also discuss how it changes with your aging process and diseases related to this.

What is the prostate gland?

In most mammals and some invertebrates, the males have an exocrine gland in the reproductive system. Its name is the prostate gland. It varies anatomically, chemically, and physiologically from species to species. The word prostate took inspiration from the Ancient Greek word, προστάτηc. Its meaning is ‘one who stands before’ or ‘ones who protect’.

3d rendered medically accurate illustration of prostate cancer

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For adult men, it has the size of a walnut. It has a weight of about 11 grams on average, can range from 7 and 16 grams. The muscles of the pelvic floor cover the surrounding of the prostate. The prostatic capsule or prostatic fascia makes the covering capsule of it.

A Venetian anatomist, Niccolo Massa first identified the prostate in his book, Anatomiae Libri introductorius aka An Introduction to Anatomy. A Flemish anatomist, Andreas Vesalius illustrated its anatomy in 1536. Massa liked to describe the prostate as a glandular flesh upon which rests the neck of the bladder. On the other hand, Vesalius had thought it as a glandular body.

Where can you find it?

The prostate is located in the male pelvis. The gland can be found below the urinary bladder.  The two of urethra pass within it. The prostatic urethra is the part of the urethra that passes through it. It also joints with the two ejaculatory ducts from both sides.

A thick and strong fibro-muscular band, named the capsule, separates the gland from other organs. Both lobes and zones help to describe the internal structure of the prostate. Your prostate is a small gland that lives inside your body. It sits around the urethra, the tube that carries your urine from the kidney to urethrae. Females do not have a prostate. In the female reproductive system, cooper’s gland is equivalent to it.

How the prostate is made?

The prostate has a mixed texture consisted of fibrous tissue, smooth muscles, and ducted glands. In the developing embryo, the cloaca forms at the furthest end of the body. Within the fourth to the seventh week, it will divide into urogenital sinus and the urorectal septum. Around the end of the third month, outgrowths arising from these will grow into the surrounding mesenchyme of the gland.

The prostate is made of glandular and connective tissues. The lining epithelium of the glands is a tall columnar cell. They can be present as a single layer or may be pseudo-stratified. Within the highly variable epithelium, areas of low cuboidal or flat cells may be present. The glands within it form follicles of different shapes and sizes.

These drain into large canals and therefore form the main ducts, 12-20 in numbers. The connective tissue of the prostate is made up of fibrous tissue and smooth muscle. The fibrous tissue helps to separate the glands into small lobules. These also present between the glands and smooth muscle bundles, continue with the bladder walls.

What does the prostate do?

The prostate glands help to make up a portion of your semen. You know, during the sexual response males ejaculate this fluid from their organs. After this, emitted sperm travel from the vas deferens into the male urethra via the ejaculatory ducts residing within the gland. With the help of regular contraction and relaxation of the smooth muscle of the vas deferens, it is moved into the urethra and seminal vesicles.

Stimulation from the glans penis sends nerve signals via the internal pudendal nerves to the upper lumbar spinal nerves. By the hypogastric nerves, contraction of the bulbocavernosus muscle occurs.

Male doctor and testicular cancer patient are discussing about testicular cancer test report. Testicular cancer and prostate cancer concept.

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The prostatic secretions are thick, semisolid, and jelly-like fluid. It includes proteolysis enzymes, acid phosphatase, zinc, fibrinolysin, and prostate-specific antigen aka the PSA. These help to form more than 80 percent of semen, combining with the secretions from the seminal vesicles.

This liquid contains special enzymes and hormones helping your sperms function properly. By doing so it also plays a great role in fertility. For many, it can be a source of deep sexual pleasure. Like the g-spot in the female body, some men will find stimulation arousing. On the contrary, some will find it boring or even more painful.

How to find the prostate?

Regarding its role with coitus, some people have started considering the prostate as so-called the male g-spot. Others simply like to refer it to the P-spot. No matter what you call it, you first need it to find the exact location.  Want to learn ways to find the prostate? Maybe it’s for pleasuring yourself or someone else? We will guide you.

  • Wash and try to relax:

Putting anything up to your butt can be a common issue of concern and hesitation. We don’t want to get in contact with feces. So, cleaning is a must. Try to enjoy a warm bath or hot shower. It will help to clean as well as calm you. Moreover, it can stimulate blood flow to your privates, ensuring more pleasure for both.

  • Try to smooth out edges:

You know, the lining of your anus is highly sensitive to touch and pressure. Any unusual friction can easily tear the surface. To prevent it, keep your nails short and smooth. Clean your hands before the play, even try to put some creams.

While playing with sex toys, do check the safety instructions for safe anal penetration. You can use latex or nitrile gloves for extra protection. They can be handy for hangnails and small cuts on your hand.

  • Stimulate yourself:

As your prostate will swell up in response to sexual arousal, you can identify it easily.  Try whatever gets you in the mood. You can watch an adult movie or porn. Maybe try to masturbate, and fantasize about the climax by yourself. Sure trying to find the prostate can be a messy yet enjoyable time.

  • Be comfortable:

Try to find a sex position that makes you the most comfortable and also help you better access to your anus. You may try lying on your side, or go to squatting position. For some, sitting in a comfy chair works. Some may lie on the back having legs in the air. Just make sure your perineal muscles are relaxed.

  • Explore outside within:

Always remember never to rush while doing your anal play. Try to start gently by messaging from the surface of the perineum. The area between your scrotum and the anus is the perineum. Massaging the perineum is relaxing and pleasurable for many people.

While massaging the perineum, you may not be able to feel the prostate. But you are actually stimulating it indirectly with your fingers. Keep messaging around the anus with a rhythmic and circular motion. This will help the anal sphincter to relax.

  • Finding the P-spot or prostate:

While inserting your finger in the anus, try to synchronize it to your breath. Make sure you have a lot of lubricant on hand. You may start with the pad of your finger first and not with the tip. When you are exhaling, try to push out. By doing it you may feel fingers are sliding in with the relaxation of your sphincter muscles.

About two inches deep in and toward your belly, you should be able to feel the prostate capsule. Some men can feel the sensation when they are touching it. Others may fail to notice it at all. It is always easier to have a partner to help you.

  • Experiment with what you like:

Once you have found your precious prostate, just relax and enjoy it. You can experiment with what feels good for your body. Some people like the feeling of constant pressure on their prostate. Others may prefer pressure or vibration in an on-off kind manner.

Anal sex toys can be a great way to explore your pleasure. Toys with a slight curve are good for proper prostate stimulation. Some toys with batteries will vibrate. It can be a completely different kind of sensation that some men.

You can change with speed and frequency according to your preference. Try to start slow and then move on to rapid speed. Butt plugs are anal beads are good for constant stimulation. You can put them in your anus without worry. Many have told that putting butt plugs really change the way of their orgasms.

The final thoughts:

Sexual pleasure is all about your body. Never do anything that you may not like. If you are interested in giving it a try, talk to your partner openly. No need to go for finding the P-spot the first anal expedition. Take things slow.

Hope this article, ‘how do I know I found my prostate?’ will help you.

Hi, I'm Umme Hurayra. I am currently studying MBBS in Mymensingh Medical College. Medical science is an incredible thing. I like to share my knowledge with everyone.